To be an attractive man is to have the best card in the dating game. You have your pick of the litter whether its casual sex or a long term relationship. You have it made. For the rest of us ordinary men, dating is bleak. Most men were simply not meant to get laid in nature.
Most men usually end up in sexless long term relationships with women who have outlived their peak fertility and attractiveness, and can no longer be as selective as they were before. They settle for ordinary men for the sake of financial stability, while still desiring men at the very top.
This leads to broken marriages which is what most marriages arewhere the woman may have pity sex with the ordinary man a handful of times, after which will come the fights, depression, porn addiction, and divorce.
Most women hate ordinary men. At best, they view us as invisible. At worst, they view us as scum who are at the bottom of the heap. Its just nature. Since November ofI have been actively looking for new employment. In terms of how frequently I apply, I have submitted around applications.
Not at all, because there is simply not enough time for me to stress out over a business not willing to hire me. If I got upset, pissed off, and vented to everyone about how no one will hire me, I do nothing but make matters worse. Now imagine, if I had talked to different women since November ofdo you think I would have time to get upset over Hailey not wanting me?
Probably not, because I already moved on mentally to the next woman. Its definitely easier said than done, but dating for men takes much more effort than it does for an attractive woman. More than likely, her inbox is being flooded with desperate guys who think someone who they meet online will give them a chance.
The last time I was hit on, was by a man who thought sending this would be a bright idea.
I still have a very hard time in dealing with rejection, but again, if we compare dating to looking for a job, there are similarities.
The more frequently a man puts himself out there, the less likely he will become stressed out and beat himself up for ONE woman not wanting him. Has it ever struck you how rare those complaints are from men? Where are the men who complain about women who are willing to have sex with them, but who invariably dump them shortly thereafter? Has it ever struck you how much rarer those complaints are from women?
I'm speaking specifically of the Western world here when I say that in the dating game, men and women face very different kinds of challenges. Men and women are basically entirely different species. Dating essentially becomes this intense battlefield of mind games that no one really. In it, researchers studied the “desirability” of male and female users, based on A new study about online dating found that a man's desirability.
I think cultural reasons as well as possibly some amount of biological difference conspire to make men and women reject people that they see as unsuitable for long-term romance, but at somewhat different times.
Women who too eagerly accept sex with men are often judged negatively as sluts or worse, and in addition to that concerns about safety also all push women towards rejecting men early, before having sex with him. Instead, every single women who slept with me was also willing to have an actual relationship with me. And that makes sense. It also helps that where women are shamed for too eagerly having sex, men are praised for it.
I made a graph for it for another answer; here it is:.
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Obviously all of the above is a huge simplification. Firstly, why do men assume that women are getting endless inbox messages from random people or getting calls on end for dates?
Lets examine the good the bad and the ugly on both sides. I liked the responses from a couple people, saying it depends on the goals of the individuals and I totally agree - it depends on socio-economic status for men and physical appearances for women. Do u think if u are poor u are doomed to a dateless life?
If u have nothing u can work harder, study part time, try to actually make some money for yourself and not be complacent about ur lot in life. I tel u - chances that u would find a women of long term value by simply being that interested in doing better or being better than u were yesterday, this is how a lot of people in this discussion have missed the mark. Looks for women. Now, if u are an ugly women, ur choices are to get plastic surgery. No make up can make an average looking women look like Angelina Jolie or Catherine zeta jones.
I get that there are exceptions to the rule - a hot and financially secure guy going for an ugly women. Both sexes are visual - men care more about looks on average and men are also financially more geared in that way. Women have been on the back foot in terms of financial and cultural perspectives in most countries in the world - ie we must be the cookers the cleaners the baby rearers and now we want equal rights in the work place.
With all this being said, working to improve ur socio economic status is much easier and more socially acceptable and admirable then getting a bunch of plastic surgery to land a man.
Being born poor is not an unchangable factor to compare them equally. Women would also need to work hard to fund surgery. The average women is not born beautiful unfortunately, so this argument applies to most men and women.
Really gorgeous women are comparable to really wealthy men who inherented their wealth. These people fall out of this argument because they are not the average norm.
Another advantage men have - they are unpopular with women when they are younger and as they age - they tend to have a larger dating pool. And have more time to make up for financial shortcomings. Women have biological clocks and after a certain age most men would rather go for the younger women.
The sexy secretary is more appealing. So women actually have a shorter period of successful dating, on average. This is a huge Huge difficulty. If u are useless with dating, the more time u have, the greater your chance to get lucky.
Therefore, success rates are deeply affected by this disadvantage. So yes, marriage and kids does factor as a consequence of who has it easier between men and women in terms of dating.
Men have to deal with rejection, this is the primary argument for how hard it is for a man.
I get this. It is harder for men to pick up women because they have to put themselves out there socially, and deal with the rejection. But what kinds of rejection are we talking about? Are we talking about seeing a hot girl at the bar and being rejected by her? Do u get hung up when u meet someone for 5 minutes and she rejects u?
What about us women getting hung up over men we just slept with, who dump us? Sex is still primarily more intimate than a conversation at a bar.
So yes, it took balls to get a slap in the face from the girl at the bar but letting a man into your vagina takes far more balls excuse the conflicting pun lol than any bar, unless you are a sexually liberal female.
On average, unlike the movies, women do not hand out sex like candy. This is the not dating rejection - this is pre-dating rejection. Whilst being a relationship, both men and women have it equally hard because compatibility and other more complex human issues come into play.
I would never say that the relationship process is easier for men or women but the process of finding a date or going on dates is very much easier on men. Getting laid is harder for them toobut this is why prostitution exists. And the porn industry.
Sex is not the be all of dating. Well- in my opinion pain can be defined by the length of time that it exists for. Eg if your mother dies, it may take a couple years to deal with the pain. Now I get that pain is relative to the individual- so some guy out there may be crying for years about a women that rejected him but really - I think those are unusually sensitive people - most of us get over ex boyfriends and girlfriends over time - And meet life partners or at least try to. My point is - harder should be defined by pain and pain should be defined by length of pain.
The money you make has so so so much of socially practical applications that if all you knew to do was make money you have a greater chance to explore your purpose and happiness, versus the fake Barbie doll whose practical application of plastic surgery is to land a man and essentially use his money or possessions to make a life.
The successful self made man is far far better off. Unattractive men or average looking men who make money still have a chance to find a hot woman.
Unattractive women are In the crap bucket. Average looking women are also in the crap bucket.
I prefer to date men in terms of sexual compatibility, but Christ are women better kissers. Women are softer and more responsive to physical cues, where as men tend to be like, 'This is what I've done before and no one ever said it sucked so I'll keep doing it! Women are squishier. People treat you differently when you switch it up. It's easier to find guys to date. Women are better kissers.
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