28 Single Women Tell Us About Their Best Date - #Swipelife - TinderAs a Love Coach and creator of Power Love Project, I hear a LOT of the same questions when it comes to being effective in the dating world today, especially from women in their 30s and 40s. Q- I want to find my true partner. How many dates do I need to go on? A- This is different for everyone. People have different barriers that get in the way of connecting with the right person and these barriers can be love blockers no matter how many dates you go on. However, I recommend that you start by creating a dynamic dating life. Keep it PG and go on dates every week.
You should if you want them. Norbert — Can you see how strange it is that you wrap up your comments by telling others not to judge but your entire post is nothing but some terrible judgements on women?
Men have as much autonomy as any other human being when it comes to children. Any individual woman or man has a say in when and if they have children. And any individual woman or man sometimes encounters things that are out of their control.
Everyone as choices. If you want women to like you, you actually have to like women. Could you be more degrading toward women? There is nothing wrong with you having kids after I would never been able to handle kids in my early 20s. And that I will be a better Mom now then I would have been when I was younger. I have no clue why you feel the need to tear down this 39 year old mum just because she said that to you.
Are you not engaging in the same behavior she was by tearing someone else down for their choices? Maybe her and her mum are really close? You may be attracted to women, you may love them or want to sleep with them, but you do not have a fundamental respect, true appreciation of or like for women.
And it shines through in the way you choose to talk about women here. Women want to be with men that truly like them.
Perhaps you hsould take your own advice. When I online dated in my late 20s early 30s the thought of dating a man over 40 was creep city to me no way I would have done it! Most of the ladies I know in that age range now feel the same. So while fertility may be an issue for women sexuality because one for men! Women want it more and men can provide it less. I tend to date men who have kids and are not looking for more because I too get a lot of well I want kids you are too old. Hello you are 45 and looking to have a baby?
Even though physically it may be possible is it a good idea? I dunno. Men play around a ton in their 30s. If kids are a priority to you men you really need to look for this in your 30s as well.
I want what I want. So, year olds: watch out for me!!! Spot on alert. Hi Alanna. No children. To be honest, I think you may have waited a little too long to have children. I would recommend that you adopt, for the health of your children, but even then, at 42, you would be 65 by the time your kids graduate from college!
Yes, I was thinking the same thing, Melanie. This dude is way off base. The liklihood of a child having the problems you mention, particularly bipolar, skyrocket when bio dad is over Funny how how seems to ignore this and just expects the girls to come flocking.
Perfectly healthy child, bright, vigorous and healthy. Personally, I do it because younger men like me far more than older. Delusional jerks! Im with Topogigio. When I see an older woman with a younger man, my first instinct is to HighFive both of them! Im all about it, thats why I dont know why there is so much hatred for the opposite. I also like the fact that the the woman is someone who I would not date, and the young guy is competition.
So Im happy when both are removed from the dating pool. Cougar on……. Half of all cases of Down Syndrome are linked to men 40 and over. The first major study of its kind found the reason for the big increase in DS among women 35 and over is partly because they are frequently partnered with men 40 and over.
Topogigio, dating sites are full of women like you who like to brag about younger men wanting them so bad. Clearly, you are insecure with yourself and need reassurance that men still find you attractive. Here tossing you a biscuit have a biscuit. My 2 brothers and I were born to a father of older than 37 and a mother older than We are all normal and have university education and professional degrees. None of us have ad any major illness. Im sure glad my mother didnt think like you!
Norman You might find this interesting. Marry somebody because you love them, and only for that reason. Any other reason is not a healthy reason to marry. The only study that I am aware of that mentions these risks is from Iceland where people are very closely genetically related their family lineage goes back to the Viking era.
So it could you be that younger men are actively avoiding women that they are related to. Having children with someone who is very genetically similar to you increases the risk of birth defects. So I would take these findings with a grain of salt. Are you advocating rape? Because I keep seeing all these comments about waiting too long, but I thought it took two to tango and I needed a willing partner to have a child. I think in some parts of the 3rd world, they still buy and sell girls like cattle.
How old is too old to have a baby? By Mary M. Murry, R. March 27, About 14 percent of births in the United States are to women 35 and older.
Now they are considered advanced maternal age. What does that mean exactly? I thought I would tackle the issues of advanced maternal age in two parts. Today I will talk about conception and early pregnancy. I will cover more of the possible issues of late pregnancy in women over 35 if you are interested.
My goal is not to make light of the potential issues but rather put them in perspective.
Women over 35 may take longer to be able to conceive. This is related to those eggs we have had since birth. Our eggs are with us almost from conception. They can lose quality and there can be fewer of them. This is one reason to seek help from your health care provider if you have been unable to achieve pregnancy after trying for 6 months. There is an increase in spontaneous miscarriage with an approximate risk of 25 percent in women age and 51 percent in women If you look at this another way, women have a 75 percent chance of not having a miscarriage.
The concern many women over 35 hear about most often is Down Syndrome or other chromosomal abnormalities. Her risk of a baby with Down Syndrome is about 1 in In other words, the odds of having an absolutely normal baby would be about There are so many positive things about having children when we are older and yet the increased risks are real.
Learn as much as possible and if and when you get pregnant, rejoice! Mary M. The risk factor for men for over 35 is not same for women over Most men are still fertile at 42, while most women are not. Actually, men at 42 are not as fertile as younger men. Neither do they offer as quality sperm. If you want children and are older, you should have them.
But you should also be aware of the risks. And women should be aware of the risks of having children with older men. Just like men are aware of the risks of having children with older women. Even after taking into account the age of the would be mother. The risk of miscarriage and premature birth rises once a man is over the age of With men over 50, a pregnancy was twice as likely to end in the loss of a baby vs younger fathers. Older fathers also increase the risk of autism and shizophrenia in children.
They are also responsible for genetic disorders. Men over 50 where 8 times more likely to produce children with dwarfism. There is no shame in any of this. But I do believe men ignore their own reproductive responsibility and blame women for the brunt of the responsibility when medical science is discovering that men are major contributing factors to issues in children. Biology did not create a system where older men where the prime sexual partners.
It did create a system that would protect the species from extinction. But since younger men still exist in droves, younger men, just like younger women, are the prime sexual partners. Older men, just like older women, are not. Women are very aware of how being older affects potential off spring. However, there is not enough conversation and information given to men about how their age affects children as well. A woman has a much better chance of having healthy children with younger men, than older men.
HOpe this helps you. AllHeartI never said men over 40 were just as fertile as men in their 20s, I was they are much more fertile than women who are the same agre. And also the age of both men and woman counts as well. And even it is true, the odds are still slim. But regardless of this debate, you should ask yourself what your intentions are in even being here.
“Pretty Privilege,” Aging as a Woman and Dating in Your 30s and I hear married friends judge single women in their 30s and 40s who go out. What are the reasons that men in their 20s and early 30s mid 30s and late 30s ask out women in their mid 40s late 40s and early 50s? 10, Views. Evan Marc Katz answers a reader's question about online dating. Episode Why Do Women in Their 30s Not Want to Date Men in Their 40s by Evan Marc.
The women here want to find love with men that honor and respect us. This is a website women come to because they want love. Because they love men. Women are people. And it would be nice if you treated us like that instead of trying to exploit some misguided competition because of your desire to prove you are better simply because you are a man. Wait a minute. Pointing out that women biologically have it worse when it comes to fertility than men is somehow hateful towards women. You are entitled to your own opinion, but not your own facts.
I will say it again because you choose to ignore the point of this website. Because that is what this website is about. If you want to get into debates that self-serve your own unrealistic, fantasy based ideology about your male prowess, you certainly have a million other spaces where you can spend all the time you need to sprouting false facts about biology and telling yourself all kinds of false things to make yourself feel good. The women here do not exist so that you can feel like you have female attention to spread your negativity and dislike for the female gender.
The women here do not exist to be walking wombs to carry on your genetic line. We are human beings deserving of love, kindness, compassion and respect.
The women here are looking to find love with good men who honor, respect and care about women. They are not here so insecure guys can pontificate about their own imaged prowess and play truly horrible games of imagin d biological competion.
We need good men here. Men who really have a pure intention to help. Let us do that. And you are more than free to find websites that align with you ideology and where you can spend all day long talking on the internet about your imagined biological superiority. My mother was 47 when I was born, and my father 57….
I had my first girlfriend at She was We love kids, both of us would make good parents. I want to fully experience a relationship, sex and all the other wonderful things. If I started a family now, I would not be happpy. I told her that despite being together for many years, we still have alot of things to do, seperate and together.
She has started her own business, now 29 years old. She is not ready to have kids, so it works out for both of us. To me age is irellevant. Where I am at in my life matters more. I am not your average man with the standard values and expectations everyone else have. For me there is no age limit for anything. To me this is the best thing for me. People tend to think what is best for them is also best for everyone else. David Letterman got his firs child after Mick Jagger just became a dad and he is Listen to your heart.
Kent, clearly age matters to you because you choose to be with a woman almost a decade younger than you. Then you use examples of wealthy elderly men who had children with much younger women. You are either here to support women or support your own agenda. Everything you said this far is about supporting your own agenda of women settling for older men. Autism is on the rise and has been linked to older fathers. Among many other diseases.
Please have children when you want. But stop trying to convince women to be with older men when you most certainly would never pick an older women to be with. Especially older men who are not taking the balk of the finiancial burden. Which should be the pay off in being with an older man. OMG that was one study from Sweden….
The laughing stock of the planet. Men over 40 have been having kids for literally hundreds of years. Work hard and get your lady like we always have.
There is literally little to no evidence to support the above claims. Woman will of course clamour to this one paper because it makes them feel better because they have problems in their 40s having kids.
It is PC bullshit. MelanieB — This is a ridiculous comment on many levels. Firstly, genetic mutations are there whether you are 21 or And you can get screened.
And so what about being 65 when kids graduate? You are more financially stable to be able to help support them and prevent them getting into ridiculous levels of debt.
Dating in your 40s to some women might seem like utter torture, especially if you' ve been dating for what seems like an eternity and still want to. r/dating: A subreddit to discuss and vent about the dating process and learn from the I've found that after my 30s, just the simple fact of having an established. Good News for Men Dating in Their 30s and 40s. Many of the guys they used to compete with, are now out of the game. November 29, by David Pisarra 36 .
You people are all so full of crap There are many women and men OVER 40 who have their first child and nothing is wrong with it. You are assuming thier will be a medical risk. Its true my relatives did. What procedures were involved? What cost? The likelihood of a year old woman having a child naturally is about 1. That is true!! Things have changed!!.
I have a close friend as well, she is 43 had twins 2 years ago. She is now pregnant again!! Who has the phone number of this 42 frustraded man. I am 40, healthy, wanting to have a relationaship, have kids.
But you excluded us already looking for a young girl. There are also 42 year old women that want children. What do you think of these women? You have had decades to have children and decided not to up until this point.
But that is simply not reality. Unfortunately, this message is a little late for you. For one thing fertility is not as big of issue for men. Based on some age studies I have looked on IVF sites, most women are infertile by age 42, most men are not. What rubbish. In fact most women are around 7 years younger than their partner on average.
Men 40 and over are at a higher risk for children with several different mental and physical disorders, Many women in their 30s know this and are probably reluctant to date in your age group. Half of all cases of Down Syndrome are linked to men 40 and over according to the first major study of its kind.
Columbia Univ, There are still plenty of 25 to 35 year old guys out there that are more appealing to those women. Wake up and find someone closer to your OWN age!!! I want to have family and kids too. I am 31 years now and i tried online dating before and found some guys in their who still not looking for serious relationship.
And I got confuse…. I would not date someone whom I do not understand even if she is cute. I would probably learn her language because there is no working relationship without communication. I am in the same boat as the original writer. I look a lot younger, I am fit, have a good job.
I am not looking for a 25 year old, they are immature, sometimes if I open the door or pull out the chair for them they look surprised, they do not get it. I think finding someone close to my years and older than is a realistic goal. However I have zero luck even though I live in San Diego, California where one would think opportunity is everywhere.
I do not discriminate based on race or having children because I adopt to these. My experience supports this theory too. These older guys are still not looking for a serious relationship because they likely never will. Ignore them. Continue looking for the 1 or 2 decent guys near your own age who want what you do, marriage and kids. I am single, Life is so exciting travelling the world and acting like I am young again. I am experiencing a mid-life revival where my health is great, I feel 21 again, and it is easy for me to get distracted by the many good things of this world.
We can become so obsessed with qualifying for eligibility, i. Women have such high expectations of men. Modern feminists have a lot to answer for. They overcompensated for years of oppression by devaluing men and overselling the power of women to the extent that the social mirror for women these days shames women who want to be stay-home moms.
That expectation was created by feminists. Or so the social mirror compels them. I just want someone committed to the relationship more than committed to self. Because both genders have inherent traits that benefit family-making.
When both work together, harmony and nirvana are achieved. The problem today is that people are too committed to getting what they want. If people would only focus on making each other happy, then all would be well. You wade through trials together and grow together. People only grow apart because they get selfish. We have forgotten the pleasure of making our lover laugh or feel loved. Of conquering obstacles side-by-side. But they left out the part where unselfishness is the segway to love.
You feel better telling your loved one how good they are each day than moaning about how they messed up your plans. Almost 3 year later and I am still hearing from American Feminist on this issue. Which is why expatriation has become my number 1 priority. Women can go-on assuming I lack tact or some other social skill in order to attach the opposite sex. My skill set is not on trial here. What is; my opinion that older women still have more value than younger women which is a fabrication of Western media.
Western internet dating sites are dominated by women between years of age. Thanks for clearing that up, as based on your old posts, I sure was confused. Women want to be with men that like them and respect them. Perhaps only when they are And yes, that is your personal issue, not women who are single and over the age you have set in your own head where they lack worth.
And Joseph, why would you support an individual that wants to devalue an entire group of people based any factor related to their skin color, creed or age? You do understand that devaluing entire groups of people based on race and religion is no different from doing it based on age yes? Since your target of choice is women, why would you support another man in his degradation of women?
Do you enjoy degrading women too? Things like loyalty, maturity, consideration and compatibility are actually more important to marriage. Two of my friends had miscarriages in their mids and another friend gave birth to an autistic baby at Obviously, this is anecdotal, but the point is that percentages and statistics are not absolutes.
You might also be disappointed when she rather go out clubbing than stay home and cook you dinner. Dating site users are predominantly male. Apps like Tinder are also more attractive for younger men and women. Sites like OKCupid and PoF might attract more older users men and women because they require more content for relationships rather than just looking for hook ups. There is also -no- western fabrication that says older women are more valuable than younger women, it is the opposite.
Media often pairs much younger women with older men, which is why so many older men have a problem with younger women not wanting them. They feel they are being denied something they seem to think they are entitled to. Maybe people should try dating people in their own age groups if they are unable to get people younger.
Why Do Women in Their 30s Not Want to Date Men in Their 40s by Evan Marc Katz
And especially have to go to other countries and take advantage of people suffering financial hardships. In many cases those people are used for money, and abandoned when the money is gone.
Or after gaining PR or citizenship. Also, millennials mainly grew up on the internet. The mindset is very different from that of baby boomers. Culture plays a big role in younger people wanting to date within their own generation. A 30 year old can relate more to a 20 year old than a 40 year old, in many instances.
There are always exceptions, but it is worth considering these aspects before being angry at groups of people. Dating site users are predominantly male?
Can you site where you got that information? I do know dating sites that tend to focus on casual sex and hooking-up do tend to skew male. However, dating sites that focus on partnership and marriage tend to skew more heavily female. Just the ones that have no yet accumulated the emotional intelligence to relate to women, physically, emotionally and mentally beyond pre-pubescent fantasies.
And actually, if you review statistics, there is actually less of a cultural gap then previous generations. Older and younger alike are all completely saturated in pop-culture whether we want it or not.
Memes and other references are shared cross-generationally. Now older and younger all use the same technology and are all exposed to the same content. Older people are on their iphones as much as younger people. They use Facebook, Instagram and Twitter too. Technology is not the playground of the young only. So maybe both are accurate to say. Why is it so strange that women years older than you would look at your profile? The nerve of those people!
Personally I will go a couple of years older or a couple if years younger and FYI fertility treatment exists and I know at least 10 women from the ages of who have just had successfully their first child some with a second on the way…no help needed.The 14 Red Flags of Dating - The Art of Manliness
You need to do some research. Yes, there is some risk, but how badly do you want to really fall in love with the future mother of your child ren? I am 40 and have known I was clinically infertile since I was I am otherwise healthy and although pregnancy and childbirth will carry some risk, the genetic risk factor is out. And yet, I want a man who loves me enough and wants a child badly enough to support me in getting donor eggs or adopting embryos so I may become a mother.
There is still time with the help of science and good health. You never know until you try to conceive what you may be up against. You or the OP could meet your ideal year-old, fall in love, and find out she will have trouble or need help conceiving. Stop getting caught up in the fertility factor, as infertility is QUITE common among all ages of men and women. I would LOVE to start a family with a year-old man. On the flip side, I have seen men in their 40s and 50s state they want kids yet they indicate an age range of in their search stats for a woman.
Unlike you, they must have skipped biology Quit looking for women online! Online is a catalog. You get to see if you even connect. You want a family? Quit being lazy and get out there! Leave the country too! At your age you better be looking like those guys on the Fitness magazines. You could become a dad 42, but as the child ages, so will you. Perhaps a woman ten years your junior now, is taking that into consideration.
I know I would. With the advances in medical technology, women over 40 are having healthy pregnancies everyday. However, you admit that you never had a single conversation about your future family before marrying her. How anyone could get married without having these discussions is beyond me but it was clearly not just her fault if you assumed she wanted what you wanted without asking her opinion.
You could have walked out then. Seems disingenuous to blame only her for your situation. A large study in England, the first of its kind, found at 30 a man contributes 6 mos. Another study found men add two and a half years, on average, to the time to pregnancy.
A study of women in their early 20s paired with men in their 40s found they typically took two and a half years to get pregnant. A study of women found they were twice as likely to get pregnant if their partner was under 40 vs.
Women aged 35 took 5x longer to get pregnant by men aged 45 vs women aged 35 with partners in their twenties. Women in their early 30s are much more likely to get pregnant in a year if their partner is under Infertility rates in men double between 25 and If a 40 or 45 year old is in this category he may instantly get a young woman pregnant, but he is the exception not the rule. She is 3x as likely to have a miscarriage if her partner is 35 VS 25, regardless of her age.
The older her partner is the less likely a woman is to carry a baby to term. None of these studies were done in fertility clinics as was previously reported in The Guardian.
Several studies in fertility clinics found the same. But if someone puts it as the first most important thing I will run away. The guy might say he wants kids, might even mean it, but if you break up where will the children go? Older fathers are also thought to increase the risk of autism and schizophrenia. Now, men are also being discouraged from having children in their 40s due to exactly the same kinds of health concerns for the child.
You can get your eggs frozen at say 33 and then have a very good chance at having a child in your early forties. You can increase that age if your willing to hire a surrogate as well. Of course all of these options do require that you have some amount of money. This then pretty much relieves the time pressure on having kids for me. Instead of a good 8 years I now have something like 13 years. I am Divorced, was married to a lady 6 months my junior.
Both in the same management category. Both strong minded and will full.
It's the same exact advice I give to women in their early 40's who want men in their early 40's except men in their early 40's want women in their 30's. Dating in your 30s and 40s- Most popular questions answered. As a Love Coach and creator of Power Love Project, I hear a LOT of the same. When you're in your 20s, anything goes but in your 30s the dating game changes . Here are the 6 things you really need to know while dating in.
We both met late 39and with the support of family decided to get married. Big mistake. She battled to have kids, doctors, the works. I can have kids, even now. Went on a date with a 25 year old. Best time of my life… guess not the same for her. I continue to seek that experience, and yeah its very elusive. Perhaps I should just look out for nice 43 year old? In every other country in the world women keep having children until menapause.
Only in the United States many women are morbidly obese, have high blood pressure, diabetes, smoke, drink beer like water, and yet blame fertility and pregnancy issues entirely on age.
Find someone of reasonable weightno bad habits such as smoking or drinking excessively and is free of endocrine problems or gynecological issues like endometriosis and PCOS. There should be very little risk even in her early forties. Focus on finding someone you love and who loves you. There are many risks associated with older fathers such as aspergers, schizophrenia, muscular dystrophy.
As well as errectile problems. Yet these women are willing to give you a chance and not seeking someone younger. Why deny yourself happiness due to a fixed idea. Women who date older men are often less attractive so find difficulty finding someone their own age or need financial support. Trust your gut and think about what you wantrather than numbers.
Why would a woman under 35 take the risk of reproducing with a man over 40? Sperm quality starts dropping after 40 and nose dives after They will want a man who is under 40 too. Adopt a kid and marry someone your age. While I appreciate your predicament and potential loneliness; indeed, I am lonely too [I am 31 years old,] I must say, firstly:.
Why would you turn a lady down just because she was ? Is it not all about personality and values. Also, you state that YOU want to have children — what if the love your life does not want offspring?
But you love her because she is enough? Just a thought. And YOU are not taking that medical risk — again — do you not want to get to know a lady first in order to know, firstly, if you love her, and if you do, then surely, that would be enough, either with or without children?
And do you not think that you should take her feelings and plans into consideration before laying out the law? You only live once — why not enjoy life and the life you have with your future partner? Enjoy and love her — and she may love you — and you may have a future — although it may be different to the one you envisaged. I wish you both happiness.
They dont even realize the sexism of expecting the woman take a risk with old sperm of lesser quality. In their ignorance of science, they assume only women have limits to successful breeding. Women are told all the time that if they didnt bother to get ready for life they arent entitled to marry a man who did, otherwise that makes her a vapid, scorned, gold digger. Well men: if you waited too long to have kids: that doesnt entitle you to someone who had more regard for their breeding potential — it makes you just as vapid and scorned.
The statistic, of a woman over 34 having a child is a risk, is merely a statistic. I have created a child when I was My body is a reproductive powerhouse and birthed a nine pound baby and made milk like a milk maid.
Quit being so superficial and trust that you will know how to find a virulent, vivacious and bright woman to bear children. Many women are in tuned to their bodies and can even tell when they are ovulating. Has it ever occurred to you that the only way these 45 year old women can find out if you want children is to open up your profile?
If they are writing to you then yes that is their problem. When I was 30 I thought that a man who was 34 was ancient. Fyi, many women in their mid to late thirties have healthy babies. Even though the risks do go up, the odds are still very good that a woman that age will have a healthy child. Many year old women take good care of their health and are having children later. I do know a 26 year old with a child who has down syndrome though. I am currently pregnant with identical twin girls…monochorionic-diamnotic…meaning I only released one egg and it split.
My last ultrasound showed zero birth defects and no signs of down syndrome. I am going to be 39 in a couple months. I have healthy babies because I ate healthy, nutrient dense food, practiced yoga and exercised regularly prior to getting pregnant.
I am gob smacked at this stupid email you received from this 42 year old man. So incredibly self centred. What woman in her right mind would want an old man who just wants her because she can breed for him. He has spent his entire life chasing skirts and has not found anyone worth his love but at 42 he decides that its time to reproduce.??
I suggest its time to give a good woman your heart and actually want to be in a relationship with someone before you place these LARGE expectations on them. And this goes to any other man who has waited till he is 40 to settle. I get everyone wants their freedom and fun when they are young but 40s not young, 30s not young and 25 is pushing it. Young is 18 and under and rest of us should have grown up by now. Complete, utter nonsense.
When did the desire to have children become calling those who want to have children breeders? I am gobsmacked you would say that, but given the tactics used on the front lines of the gender war, maybe not. Women are largely depreciating asset. You are at your highest value under 25, unmarried and no children.
The SAME does not happen to men. You would call a man who wants children after 40 a womb digger, its unimaginative and proves that some feminist are in fact misandrist. Memo to men in America. All men really want is a nice looking woman, who stays in-shape and grows old gracefully. Stress, smoking, bad eating habits, lack of exercisedrug abuse and drinking speed that all up ladies. I believe your spot on Anthony. Ive been looking for a good women to date and have dated some great women.
All younger than me as thats whay ive always done. Women that already have children and dont want more should date men in their 40s they do Want children,such as myself. And then you go on about men being discounted. Everyone thinks its all about them. No one really cares about anyone anymore. And we wonder why we have so many unhappy relationships.
I agree with Carmela, whatever happened to love, not convenience?!! Also, its only natural that older women would start to gravitate towards younger men if men their age act like they should be put out to pasture once they reach a certain age. But noooo, men are still studs because they can still shoot sperm past a certain age, right? It seem men and women are just. It seems men and women are looking at dates as if they were part of a contract of need and are not looking at each other and are just interested in taking rather than giving….
I whole heartedly disagree. A man in his 40s is really past the age of reproduction as well. If your trying to start a family in your 40s with hopes of kids you would be a womb digger. Think of it this way if you married someone at 40 had years before you had kids. Now you are 42 by time that kid is 18 and out of just high school your What kind of life are you giving that kind?
My grandparents are in their 60s and that would be the equivalent of them having me. I am 28 and do have kids. I am married and settled with a college education.
Women 32 and older increased their chances of giving birth to a down syndrome child each year passed this age. In fact it doubles each year past That is another drawback to waiting. Most people stay within the year either way flux keep that in mind. Past that child bearing becomes complicated and dangerous. So basically, you think a man needs to purchase a woman.
To you, women seem to be similar to cattle or sheep. You expect them to have certain traits but do not think they have the right to also expect certain traits. To that end, you deserve what you get. Your sperm is not a great contribution to society. By all means, if a man or woman want to date someone who is younger or older, go for it.
I think we nailed your problem in meeting women. If you really are a decent human being with a great deal to offer as a boyfriend, husband and potential dad, then you need to change your approach. Women like to feel they are valued just like you do and not just for their hot fertile bodies. If you are offending women, they are not going to want to date you.
Loven the butt-hurt. Good luck with your 16 yr old Filipino prostitute. She will no doubt love you for you. Maybe Paul Oyer got burned? Let us not get tunnel vision on this matter. Another point: I once dated a man who was unemployed through no fault of his own despite friends complete and disapproval.
He was one of the few men that treated me like gold but you know what? Apparently, he did not feel comfortable dating a woman of a different religion. Just keep on swimming and eventually, the right match will come along, maybe when you least expect it. Take it from an immigrant woman: the ones who marry Americans are looking to get out of the country. They despise you just as much as american women, they do what they must for money.
First off Carmela are you enjoying the boys in high school? I only ask this because most people by the time they reach college figure out that even in your forties you have a long way towards being old.
Dating in your 30s and 40s
Secondly to that a man has not found anyone worth his love at age 42 because he has been chasing skirts and suddenly wants to have kids. I am in my early forties and I have never been married. I have date women some younger some older. All have been more than worthy of my love, one broke my heart.
I realize now it is good we did not stay together. They were good relationships not mere skirt chasing, but I did not love any of them enough to spend the rest of my life with.
By the way, in this world both men and women can be gold diggers. Also, while some men may just want a woman for her womb, some women just want a man for his sperm. I think you all are giving this guy a hard time. I am 45 and divorced. I have two healthy intelligent children and I was 30 when I had my first child.
Their father was He was married before and had two children. I love kids. I would have had more but I had to talk my now ex husband into our second child. I am single and not online dating but maybe someday hope to find the love of my life and that dream I will never give up. I find it helpful to reframe past experiences in a positive light. Good luck on your search for love! Even though I think your words are harsh, you made a lot of valid points. I am 43 years old, I was married and had my two beautiful daughters at different stages.
First one when I was 21, second by the age I was also married for 15 years. Now I am divorced with a 22 year old and a 14 year old. I date women my age not younger. Being a mature man, I want and need a mature woman.
Dating in your late 30s (especially if you are dating after divorce with kids like These are the bachelors that hit lates and into mids and.
Not some young woman who has daddy issues. I for some reason think couples should stick to there same age category within reason. Maybe this may sound wrong to most men reading this post, but I think it is wrong for a 40 plus man to date a woman 10 years younger than him. Maybe because I have daughters, I really do not know why I am that way. Maybe some jail time, but you would be real sorry you did not just stick to your own age group.
I like this guy. Sounds like a sensible, decent, common sense man. I am grossed out when men more then 5 or 10 years older then me hit on me, not because I think there is anything wrong with age, but because I think there is something wrong with someone that age trying to sexually interact with someone my age. I have no respect for a man that would do that. Joe…is a respectable man. Shannon, I will be interested to see what you think of that in 20 years when you are likely divorced and trying to date.
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